The Psychology of Us

Psychological reflections on what it means to be human

The way we understand ourselves changes when we slow down enough to listen.

The Psychology of Us is a podcast exploring the emotional undercurrents that shape how we think, relate, and live. Hosted by psychology professor RJ Starr, each episode offers a grounded, research-informed reflection on the complexities of modern life — from identity and grief to boundaries, belonging, and emotional maturity.

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The Psychology of Division: Why Some Leaders Thrive on Conflict

Why do some leaders rely on conflict to stay in power? This episode explores the psychology of division—how it works, who benefits, and what it costs us. From social identity theory to the Dark Triad, we examine why division is so effective—and how to resist it.

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The Impact of Social Media on Self-Esteem and Identity

Why does social media make us feel amazing one minute and invisible the next? In this episode, we unpack the psychological cost of our digital lives—exploring how scrolling, posting, and comparing shape self-esteem and identity, especially for young adults. Learn how to take back control and use these platforms with intention.

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The Psychology of Dying: A Continuation, Not a Conclusion

What if death isn’t the end, but a continuation of something deeper? In this episode, we explore the psychology of dying—through science, story, and spiritual inquiry. From near-death experiences to existential theory, we uncover what the dying might actually go through, and what it teaches us about how to live.

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Cultural Anxiety: Psychology of Collective Experience

This episode explores cultural anxiety as a shared psychological response to uncertainty, disconnection, and emotional overload. It’s not just individual stress—it’s a collective signal that something in the emotional environment has shifted. We unpack the causes, symptoms, and strategies for navigating the tension.

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Emotional Intelligence: Navigating Your Feelings and Actions

This episode unpacks the four pillars of emotional intelligence—self-awareness, self-regulation, empathy, and relationship management—and explores how they shape the way we respond, connect, and lead. Through research, personal stories, and practical tools, you’ll learn how to navigate your emotions with clarity and strengthen your relationships with intention.

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Unpacking Self-Awareness: Understanding Your Inner World

This episode explores the psychology of self-awareness—why it matters, why it’s often so elusive, and how to strengthen it. Through research, personal stories, and real-world tools, we examine what it means to truly understand yourself and how that clarity can change the way you lead, connect, and grow. Whether you’re seeking insight or alignment, this conversation offers a grounded place to begin.

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