Essays

Essays examining psychological clarity, emotional regulation, identity, and the conditions that allow coherent thought and action.

About this series

This series consists of long-form psychological essays focused on understanding how attention, emotion, identity, and meaning function under modern conditions. These pieces are analytic rather than reactive, and explanatory rather than persuasive. They are written to clarify underlying psychological structures, not to comment on current events or offer personal guidance. The emphasis is on coherence: how inner life organizes itself, where it breaks down, and what allows it to stabilize again.

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The Archetypal Foundations of Ontological Experience

What if your disconnection isn’t depression, but a loss of archetypal grounding? This essay explores how ancient psychic structures shape our sense of self, purpose, and meaning. Drawing from Jungian psychology, it offers a path back to depth, presence, and inner coherence in a world that often rewards performance over being.

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More Than Just Clutter

Hoarding isn’t about mess—it’s about memory, safety, and emotional overwhelm. This article unpacks the difference between clutter and hoarding disorder, challenging cultural mockery and offering a more compassionate, psychologically informed lens. Behind every pile is a story worth understanding.

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Still Wanting More: On Aging, Place, and Visibility

Even when life appears full, there can be a quiet ache—a longing to feel visible, vital, and connected. This essay explores the emotional dissonance of midlife: the beauty you’ve built, the distance you feel, and the dignity of still wanting more. It’s not regret. It’s the quiet pulse of being fully alive.

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Solitude and Loneliness: A Psychological Exploration

Solitude is not loneliness—it’s a skill rooted in emotional clarity and self-trust. This essay explores the psychological difference between being alone and being lonely, why we often confuse the two, and how reclaiming solitude can become one of the most powerful acts of emotional maturity.

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Bread and Circuses 2.0: Performance, Distraction, and the Illusion of Engagement in the Social Media Age

We live in an age of constant performance and manufactured urgency. From viral dances to breaking news, today’s attention economy blurs reality and reaction, connection and spectacle. This essay explores how distraction has become a societal default—and what it means to reclaim silence, depth, and presence in a world that never stops performing.

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Being the Adult in the Room: Emotional Immaturity in an Unhinged World

From airline meltdowns to viral tantrums and political spectacle, emotional immaturity has become the norm—not the outlier. This essay explores the quiet power of being the adult in the room: the one who stays calm, grounded, and emotionally intelligent in a world that rewards chaos. When everyone else is unraveling, maturity isn’t just a personal strength—it’s a public service.

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What Kind of Neighbor Are You When No One’s Watching?

In shared spaces, kindness isn’t about grand gestures—it’s about tone, presence, and how we choose to treat each other when no one’s watching. This article explores the quiet psychology of neighborliness, the emotional cost of detachment, and why small acts of consideration—like a warm smile or a gentle reply—can change the emotional temperature of an entire community. What kind of neighbor are you becoming?

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Anywhere But Here

The "anywhere but here" mindset reveals how chasing future happiness can erode presence. This article explores how comparison traps, the myth of arrival, and negativity bias fuel chronic dissatisfaction—and why true contentment begins not with changing circumstances, but with retraining attention toward the present.

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The Psychology of Denial in a Crumbling America

Collective denial is a psychological defense that helps societies avoid uncomfortable truths. This article explores how confirmation bias, nostalgia, and social echo chambers fuel avoidance, and how breaking the cycle depends on fostering curiosity and creating spaces safe enough to face reality without fear.


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Why I Wrote “Gone Without Goodbye”

Gone Without Goodbye emerged from personal grief and the universal struggle to process sudden loss. This essay explores how creative expression transforms private pain into shared meaning and how storytelling helps preserve connections, confront absence, and find coherence in life’s disruptions.

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The Psychology of Belief | Why We Believe Things Without Evidence

Why do we believe what we do—even when the evidence says otherwise? In this episode, Professor RJ Starr unpacks the psychology of belief: how it forms, why it persists, and what it reveals about identity, emotion, and human nature. From cognitive bias to charismatic influence, belief is more than thought—it’s survival.

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The Psychology of Mockery

Mockery often masquerades as humor, but psychologically it functions as a tool of dominance, exclusion, and emotional avoidance. This essay examines why people laugh at others’ distress, how ridicule reinforces group identity and social hierarchy, and what chronic mockery reveals about insecurity, empathy deficits, and modern emotional culture. It also explores the real psychological costs of turning human vulnerability into entertainment.

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Doomscrolling

Doomscrolling hijacks the brain’s threat-detection systems, trapping users in cycles of anxiety and compulsive news consumption. This article explains how negative news feeds reinforce stress patterns and offers science-backed strategies like media fasts and solution-focused habits to help break free.

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Time, Loss, and the Stories We Keep

Time loss stems from narrative disruption, not just busyness. This article explores how repetitive lives blur memory, creating the illusion of vanished years, and how intentional story-making through novelty, reflection, and purpose can restore our sense of time’s richness and depth.

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When Clothing Becomes Control

Clothing serves as a psychological interface between self and society. This article explores how dress codes, uniforms, and fashion norms regulate behavior, reinforce hierarchies, and shape identity, revealing how even self-expression often conforms to socially pre-approved templates.

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Magical Thinking and the Mind

Magical thinking arises from the mind’s need for patterns and control. This article explores how superstitions fulfill emotional needs, how threat-detection systems favor false positives, and why unchecked magical thinking can distort risk perception and fuel conspiracy beliefs in modern life.

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The Rise of Hostile Elders

The "hostile elder" phenomenon stems from perceived status loss, cultural shifts, and aging-related negativity bias. This article explores how late-life hostility often reflects deeper struggles with relevance and how restoring purpose and fostering dialogue can ease intergenerational tensions.

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