Essays

Essays on self-awareness, emotional intelligence, identity, and the psychology of living with clarity, purpose, and connection.

These essays offer more than takes — they offer perspective. Drawing from psychology, lived experience, and cultural insight, each piece explores what it means to be self-aware, emotionally intelligent, and human in a complicated world. Written to make you think, feel, and come back to yourself — not just scroll past.

Some truths don’t fit in a post — they need room to unfold.

RJ Starr 11/24/24 RJ Starr 11/24/24

Anchored in the Past

Cognitive anchoring and stability bias cause us to judge others based on first impressions, even when new evidence emerges. This article explores how outdated perceptions persist and how recognizing these mental shortcuts can help us make fairer, more accurate assessments.

RJ Starr 11/22/24 RJ Starr 11/22/24

From Ethics to Existence: Kantian Philosophy and Existential Psychology

Kantian ethics and existential psychology approach human purpose from different angles—universal moral duty versus individual meaning-making. This article explores how combining Kant’s structure with existentialism’s focus on authenticity can create a more balanced framework for living.

RJ Starr 11/20/24 RJ Starr 11/20/24

Misinformation and Political Polarization: A Social Psychology Perspective

Misinformation thrives in polarized environments by exploiting tribal psychology and group identity. This article explores how confirmation bias and motivated reasoning fuel echo chambers and argues that breaking the cycle requires addressing the social needs behind polarization, not just correcting facts.

RJ Starr 11/20/24 RJ Starr 11/20/24

Embracing Life as an Introvert Homebody

Introversion and homebody tendencies are often misunderstood as limiting, but they offer deep satisfaction and fulfillment. This article explores the psychological benefits of a quieter, inward-focused lifestyle and offers strategies for thriving in an extrovert-driven culture.

RJ Starr 11/19/24 RJ Starr 11/19/24

Heuristics and Schemas: Mental Shortcuts and Frameworks

Heuristics and schemas are cognitive shortcuts that aid quick thinking but often lead to biases and errors. This article explores how these mental frameworks shape perception and decision-making, and how recognizing their influence can help us think more deliberately and accurately.

RJ Starr 11/6/24 RJ Starr 11/6/24

Transforming Conflict into Connection

Public outrage often masks deeper unmet needs. By responding with empathy—listening without judgment and acknowledging emotions—we can transform conflicts into connections, turning polarization into understanding.

Emotional intelligence isn’t just a workplace skill or buzzword. It's the foundation of how we stay human in an overstimulated world. It’s how we create safety, connection, and clarity in the relationships that matter most.
Overthinking is rarely about insight. It’s about emotional avoidance disguised as analysis. True understanding begins not in your thoughts, but in your willingness to stay with what’s uncomfortable without trying to fix or escape it immediately.
Self-awareness is not a luxury or a personality trait, it’s a psychological infrastructure. Without it, we repeat patterns, misread situations, and lose the ability to act with intention instead of reaction.
Boundaries are not about pushing people away. They’re how we take emotional responsibility for what we can handle, what we value, and how we want to be treated in relationships that actually matter to us.
Emotional maturity isn’t measured by how little we feel. It’s shown in how we carry big emotions without letting them hijack our behavior. It’s the quiet strength of presence, not performance.
You don’t have to erase your past to heal, you just have to stop letting it silently write the present. Healing is a return to authorship over your life, not a denial of what shaped you.
Clarity often feels like calm. Not because everything is perfect, but because you’re no longer performing, pretending, or explaining yourself to people who never learned how to listen with care.
Self-trust is not about always knowing the answer. It’s about knowing you can stay present, even when you don’t. It’s a psychological anchor in a world that rewards dissociation and speed.
When we can name what we’re feeling without shame, we begin to reclaim agency over our inner life. Language is a psychological bridge between experience and understanding; it lets us carry what we used to avoid.
You are not “too much.” You are simply carrying the emotional weight of people who never learned to sit with discomfort, so they handed it to you instead.

Essays

Essays on self-awareness, emotional intelligence, identity, and the psychology of living with clarity, purpose, and connection.

Some truths don’t fit in a post — they need room to unfold.

Anchored in the Past

From Ethics to Existence: Kantian Philosophy and Existential Psychology

Misinformation and Political Polarization: A Social Psychology Perspective

Embracing Life as an Introvert Homebody

Heuristics and Schemas: Mental Shortcuts and Frameworks

Transforming Conflict into Connection

Emotional intelligence isn’t just a workplace skill or buzzword. It's the foundation of how we stay human in an overstimulated world. It’s how we create safety, connection, and clarity in the relationships that matter most.

Overthinking is rarely about insight. It’s about emotional avoidance disguised as analysis. True understanding begins not in your thoughts, but in your willingness to stay with what’s uncomfortable without trying to fix or escape it immediately.

Self-awareness is not a luxury or a personality trait, it’s a psychological infrastructure. Without it, we repeat patterns, misread situations, and lose the ability to act with intention instead of reaction.

Boundaries are not about pushing people away. They’re how we take emotional responsibility for what we can handle, what we value, and how we want to be treated in relationships that actually matter to us.

Emotional maturity isn’t measured by how little we feel. It’s shown in how we carry big emotions without letting them hijack our behavior. It’s the quiet strength of presence, not performance.

You don’t have to erase your past to heal, you just have to stop letting it silently write the present. Healing is a return to authorship over your life, not a denial of what shaped you.

Clarity often feels like calm. Not because everything is perfect, but because you’re no longer performing, pretending, or explaining yourself to people who never learned how to listen with care.

Self-trust is not about always knowing the answer. It’s about knowing you can stay present, even when you don’t. It’s a psychological anchor in a world that rewards dissociation and speed.

When we can name what we’re feeling without shame, we begin to reclaim agency over our inner life. Language is a psychological bridge between experience and understanding; it lets us carry what we used to avoid.

You are not “too much.” You are simply carrying the emotional weight of people who never learned to sit with discomfort, so they handed it to you instead.

Professor RJ Starr

Integrating psychology, culture, and meaning to illuminate the forces shaping modern life.