What to Say When Someone You Love Is Hurting: A New Script Pack for the Hardest Moments
There are moments when someone you love is in pain—and you find yourself frozen. Not because you don’t care, but because you care so much that you suddenly forget how to speak. You want to help. You want to offer comfort. But instead, you second-guess every word, worry about making it worse, or say nothing at all.
If you’ve ever felt this way, you’re not alone. And that’s exactly why I created Holding Space: Scripts for Being There When Someone’s Grieving or Struggling.
This Script Pack is for the moments that don’t come with a guidebook—when a friend is grieving, a loved one withdraws, or someone opens up about something heavy and real and life-altering. These are the moments when presence matters most. And yet, they’re also the moments where many people feel paralyzed by fear of saying the wrong thing.
Inside this pack, you’ll find practical, emotionally intelligent scripts for supporting others through grief, trauma, invisible pain, emotional shutdowns, and long-term struggle. These aren’t fluffy one-liners or silver linings. They’re grounded, compassionate messages that help you say something real—something that doesn’t minimize, fix, or overstep.
You’ll learn how to:
Reach out without pressure when someone’s grieving or overwhelmed
Respond to disclosures of trauma, relapse, or emotional unraveling
Show care when someone has gone silent or withdrawn
Offer steady support over time—not just in the first days after a loss
Set boundaries with love when you’re emotionally maxed out
Speak with honesty, steadiness, and compassion—even when the situation is complex
One of the most powerful lessons from years of teaching, writing, and listening is this: People remember who stayed. They remember who didn’t flinch when the conversation got hard. They remember the text that didn’t ask for anything in return. They remember the words that made them feel less alone.
This Script Pack was created to help you be that kind of presence.
It’s not about saying the perfect thing. It’s about being real. Being thoughtful. And being the kind of person who knows how to hold space when it matters most.
If you’ve ever said, “I just don’t want to say the wrong thing,” this Script Pack was made for you.
You can download Holding Space now and return to it any time you need to send a message, check in with someone, or simply remind yourself what it means to show up with emotional maturity.
Let’s stop avoiding hard conversations. Let’s start speaking with clarity, care, and the kind of presence that helps others feel safe to be exactly where they are.
Because the right words don’t fix the pain—but they remind someone they’re not alone in it.